Everyone has their own journey in life. Sometimes the hard roads lead to “a hero’s journey,” but how can you discover this mindset? Adam Nugent and Kate Strong welcome international speaker and entrepreneur Henry Ammar to the podcast. Together, they talk about the need to free the world from fear and limiting beliefs and inspire confidence. Discover the life components needed to push through the void and create your confident and fulfilling life.
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What is confidence, and how can we start the change to become more confident? In this podcast excerpt, Henry Ammar explains what roadblocks exist to gaining confidence and what we can do to build a better relationship with ourselves.
AN: You had a YouTube video, and you said, “Confidence isn’t about what other people think of you. It’s about what you think of you.” Can you expand on that, because I think confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in anybody, whether it’s an interpersonal, friendship, or a business relationship.
HA: Confidence is what you feel about yourself; it’s a relationship with yourself. And if I get a little bit nerdy for a second, you know, the default mode for us is survival, because the number one directive of our subconscious mind is to survive. So survival isn’t looking for, “Oh, what’s great?” It’s looking for, “What do I need to protect myself from?”
And there’s something called neuroception, and it’s about how your subconscious mind is always looking for threats. And since we’re social beings, we’re going to naturally, by default, look for things that don’t make us feel safe. So if someone says something negative to us, that’s a social structure. So we’re naturally looking for ways to be accepted by people. So it takes a conscious effort to build confidence and to go from survival to confident creation in your life.
AN: So wanting to live the life we want and talking about healing and empowerment, and rewiring your brain, where does someone start?
HA: [It’s about] getting deep into self-awareness but creating a loving space to do so. We can dive into truth and not get to love, but we can dive into love and get to real truth in a healthy way. Most of us tell ourselves enough truth to become uncomfortable but don’t get to the truth that sets us free because what happens for a lot of us, (because we live in survival, right?) is that we hear the truth and then we beat ourselves up right away. Or we get upset or we resist the truth and what you resist will persist, right? We don’t realize that it’s your body just doing its job. You can reframe it. You can move forward. And the most beautiful thing about it is when you create a loving space, then you can get to that truth and realize that your identity, who you are, is not messed up.
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